A guide to renewing your wedding vows

A guide to renewing your wedding vows

Looking to renew your wedding vows? We've got all the ideas you need for a perfect second wedding.


Sometimes it can seem like our weddings were an age away. So much can change over the years, that it can seem like a new relationship entirely. What better way to reflect this than to repeat your commitment? There are so many things to consider when renewing your wedding vows, from the venue to the rings. Hopefully, our guide to renewing your wedding vows will give you some ideas and helpful information to use when planning your second big day! 

Wedding vow renewal ideas

Saying 'I do, again!' is a lovely way to put a spark back into your marriage, thank one another for the years you've been through, or even to undo the hurt caused by infidelity. There are lots of options - from a fancy ceremony abroad, to an intimate gathering at home. You could even relive your teenage fantasies by sloping off to Gretna Green!

Wedding vow renewal readings and poems

You can - of course - choose any readings of poems, book extracts, Bible readings or even song lyrics which are meaningful to you. Or you might choose to adapt your original vows. But if you're stuck for inspiration, here are two poems we like:

We have lived and loved

We have lived and loved together
Through many changing years,
We have shared each other's gladness
And wept each other's tears.
And let us hope the future,
As the past has been will be:
I will share with you my sorrows
And you your joys with me.

Charles Jefferys


What Love is

Sooner or later we begin to understand that love is more than verses on valentines
and romance in the movies.
We begin to know that love is here and now, real and true, the most important thing
in our lives.
For love is the creator of our favourite memories and the foundation of our fondest
Love is a promise that is always kept, a fortune that can never be spent,
a seed that can flourish in even the most unlikely of places.
And this radiance that never fades, this mysterious and magical joy,
is the greatest treasure of all - one known only by those who love.

Author Unknown


Marriage Joins Two People

Marriage offers opportunities for sharing growth
that no other human relationship can equal. 
It is an emotional and physical joining that is promised for a lifetime. 
Within the circle of love, 
marriage encompasses all of life’s most important relationships. 
A wife and husband are each other’s best friend, 
confidant, lover, teacher, listener and critic.
Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life. 
Happiness is fuller; memories are fresher; 
even anger is felt more intensely, and passes away more quickly. 
Marriage understands and forgives, 
the mistakes that life is unavoidable to avoid. 
It encourages and nurtures new life, new experiences
and new ways of expressing your love through the seasons. 
When two people pledge to love and care for each other in marriage, 
they create a spirit unique to themselves, 
which binds them closer than any spoken or written words. 
Marriage is a promise and potential, 
made in the hearts of two people who are in love, 
that takes a lifetime to fulfill.

Edmund O’Neil


When should I renew my wedding vows?

Some couples decide to renew their vows every few years after their wedding, others prefer to renew their vows for a special anniversary. Many couples choose to renew their wedding vows after a rough patch in their marriage to show the strength of their relationship.

Enjoy your special ceremony all over again with our pick of the best UK venues to renew your vows - and then send out your invitations!

Renew your vows abroad with a cruise

P&O Cruise ship, from Southampton, or take a Fly Cruise

Always wanted to go cruising? How about combining one ambition with a renewal of vows during your trip? For £295 you’ll get a ceremony, flowers, photographs, cake, Champagne and flutes to keep, plus a certificate signed by your captain. Available on all P&O cruises of seven nights or more.

A second wedding in pretty Cambridge

The Varsity Hotel, Cambridge

Arrive at your ceremony on a Champagne punt, and marvel at the view from The Varsity’s rooftop terrace. The hotel is newly licensed for couples who want to renew their vows in style. Colin Firth has been known to pop up here on occasion, but now it’s time for you to share a little luxury with your very own Mr Darcy. Prices on application. 

Renew your vows in a stately home

Wrest Park, Bedfordshire

For times when only the best will do, this Grade I listed stately home provides the ultimate in celebratory glamour. Throughout 2014, you can enjoy a ceremony, drinks and exclusive use of the venue for photography for £1,000 between 10am and noon. That’s right royal value! 


Renew your wedding vows at Gretna Green

Gretna Green, Scottish Borders

Everyone understands the appeal of Gretna. This beautiful location is the perfect place for a romantic renewal with the addition of its boutique hotel in 2007. A Gretna Green Anvil Blessing costs just £160, with dining and overnight packages also available. 


Have a Strictly-themed second ceremony

The Blackpool Tower, North West England

Whether you’re an avid Strictly fan or simply love the seaside, The Blackpool Tower Ballroom is a magical backdrop for a second wedding that you won’t forget in a hurry – and the views are an experience all of their own. Room hire from £1,000. 

An intimate ceremony in Yorkshire

East Riddlesden Hall, Keighley, West Yorks

This beautiful property is just a stone’s throw from Bradford, yet feels a million miles away. Popular with mature couples, the Great Hall accommodates up to 30 people. Ceremony plus exclusive access to hall and grounds, 9am-5pm, is £800. Extra charge to rent a golf buggy to explore the grounds! 

A country retreat for vow renewals

Gliffaes Country House Hotel, Crickhowell, Powys

Set on a forest hillside in the Brecon Beacons, Gliffaes is a heavenly rural retreat, designed to cater for small but special occasions. They’ve hosted several second weddings and despite the location, access is good. There’s also a ground floor bedroom available and civil ceremonies cost from £330.


Say 'I do' in a Medieval ruin

Old Wardour Castle, near Sailsbury, Wiltshire

If yours is a romance that’s stood the test of time, where better to renew your vows than in this awe inspiring Medieval ruin? The beautiful open-air courtyard has a truly peaceful atmosphere.
Ceremony and drinks from £800, venue available March-November. 


Renew your vows on a boat

The Inishcruiser, Loch Erne, Co. Fermanagh

Fans of the water will love a ceremony on Share Holiday Village’s Inishcruiser. A licensed venue, the boat can hold up to 57 people (including staff). Private hire available all year except Sunday mornings. Ceremony plus two-hour celebratory cruise from £750, with pick up available from anywhere on the loch. 

Renew your wedding vows at home

Your home - where your heart is! 

Renewing your vows doesn’t have to mean spending a fortune, travelling and weeks of planning. For a small charge – which you will need to check with your local governing authority – you can hire a registrar to perform an intimate second ceremony at home. An underrated option that might just be perfect for you!

Once you have decided on a venue, there are lots of exciting options to consider before sending the invitations out. So why not sit down with your loved one and decide how you want the next chapter of your marriage to begin? 

Who can conduct the wedding vow renewal ceremony?

As the renewal of vows isn’t a legal ceremony, anyone can officiate proceedings. It is most common for a professionally trained celebrant to lead proceedings but if you want your vow renewals to be a less formal affair, it could be your original maid of honour and best man, a family member or even your children. They can write the vows or you can write them yourself. 

What can I wear to my vow renewal ceremony?

Again, there is no traditional wedding renewal outfit. Some opt for a white wedding dress where some prefer to go for a cocktail style dress. You can wear whatever you feel most comfortable in.

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Should we buy new rings?

Having your ring engraved is often a thoughtful alternative to buying your loved one a new ring for the occasion. A short and thoughtful word or phrase that means something to the both of you could be engraved or even just your initials. Another gesture of your commitment to one another, and if you are religious, you could have your rings blessed during a church ceremony.

wedding rings

Should there be a reception after the vow renewal ceremony?

A wedding vow renewal is a fantastic opportunity to have a celebration with family and friends. Whilst you may want to invite a long list of guests to join you before having a large celebration and party, you may just want to hold an intimate gathering with just a few of your closest family and friends. Either way, the celebration of your relationship is the perfect occasion to enjoy yourself with the people you love.

Why not treat yourselves to a second honeymoon?


What better excuse to get away and have a holiday than to have a second honeymoon? You could visit that place that has always been on your bucket list but never got around to going to. Or why not go back to the place you went for your first honeymoon together?