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The top 50 secrets of a happy marriage revealed- do you agree?

LoveBauer Xcellove
The top 50 secrets of a happy marriage revealed- do you agree?

Whether you've been married for months or decades, it's quite likely that you already have your own little tips and tricks for sorting out the squabbles and keeping your relationship strong. But now a new study has pinned down the top things that we Brits have found to work time and time again for a happy and healthy marriage.

Researchers polled 2,000 happily married Brits and found that alongside honesty and compromise, having two TVs, two cars, two toilets or bathrooms and at least one night a week away from computers or tablets all helps. Getting on with each other’s friends and family and keeping separate bank accounts also featured high up in the top 50 secrets.

Blissful couples say trust, remembering important dates (like your anniversary) and saying ‘I love you’ often also helps keep a relationship harmonious. This is all backed up by regular cuddles, always kissing each other goodnight and in the morning before you leave the house, along with the occasional romantic gesture, like a restaurant meal out or 'date' night.

But extravagant romantic moves and expenisve presents don't always pay off it seems. For less than one in ten of the couples surveyed want the traditional flowers and chocolates, with 29 per cent just wanting a little surprise from their partner every now and then.

And to keep the  number of 'domestics' down? The happy couples surveyed suggested not hogging the remote and having two TVs in the house to avoid any clashes over what to watch on the box. 

Here's a full run-down of the the top 50 secrets to a happy marriage. Do you agree? Are there any tips and tricks they've missed off the list?

  1. Trusting each other
  2. Having the same sense of humour
  3. Always being honest with each other
  4. Remembering birthdays and anniversaries
  5. Accepting each other’s faults
  6. Compromising
  7. Saying ‘I love you’ regularly
  8. Knowing when to say sorry
  9. Being able to laugh at each other
  10. Having a similar outlook on life
  11. Regular hugs and cuddles
  12. Always kissing each other goodnight
  13. The occasional romantic gesture
  14. Considering your partner to be your best friend
  15. Sharing the parenting duties
  16. Always kissing each other goodbye in the mornings
  17. Having some shared hobbies and interests
  18. Always talking about a problem rather than bottling it up
  19. Asking your partner about their day
  20. Regular sex
  21. Having some different hobbies and interests
  22. Knowing when to give each other some space
  23. Never going to sleep on an argument
  24. Regular holidays and mini breaks
  25. Having similar aims and ambitions
  26. Having the odd argument or disagreement
  27. Continuing to make an effort to look nice for your partner
  28. Getting on with each other’s family
  29. Setting aside quality time for each other
  30. Holding hands when you are out and about
  31. Regularly complimenting each other
  32. Having your own friends as well as mutual friends
  33. Two TVs in the house
  34. Getting on with each other’s friends
  35. Each having a car
  36. Still shaving and grooming- making an effort to look good
  37. Each having equal share of the lie-ins when you have children
  38. Separate bank accounts
  39. Having regular nights out with friends, without your partner
  40. Surprise gifts and presents
  41. Not being friends with any ex-partners on Facebook and other social media sites
  42. A rota to divide up the household chores
  43. Regular date nights
  44. Two bathrooms or toilets
  45. Not having one person hogging the remote control
  46. Similar working hours
  47. Knowing each other’s passcode for their phone
  48. A secret stash of cash they know nothing about
  49. Keeping some things private (not going to the toilet in front of each other etc)
  50. A night or two a week where neither of you use your computers or phones
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