Whether you've been married for months or decades, it's quite likely that you already have your own little tips and tricks for sorting out the squabbles and keeping your relationship strong. But now a new study has pinned down the top things that we Brits have found to work time and time again for a happy and healthy marriage.
Researchers polled 2,000 happily married Brits and found that alongside honesty and compromise, having two TVs, two cars, two toilets or bathrooms and at least one night a week away from computers or tablets all helps. Getting on with each other’s friends and family and keeping separate bank accounts also featured high up in the top 50 secrets.
Blissful couples say trust, remembering important dates (like your anniversary) and saying ‘I love you’ often also helps keep a relationship harmonious. This is all backed up by regular cuddles, always kissing each other goodnight and in the morning before you leave the house, along with the occasional romantic gesture, like a restaurant meal out or 'date' night.
But extravagant romantic moves and expenisve presents don't always pay off it seems. For less than one in ten of the couples surveyed want the traditional flowers and chocolates, with 29 per cent just wanting a little surprise from their partner every now and then.
And to keep the number of 'domestics' down? The happy couples surveyed suggested not hogging the remote and having two TVs in the house to avoid any clashes over what to watch on the box.
Here's a full run-down of the the top 50 secrets to a happy marriage. Do you agree? Are there any tips and tricks they've missed off the list?
- Trusting each other
- Having the same sense of humour
- Always being honest with each other
- Remembering birthdays and anniversaries
- Accepting each other’s faults
- Saying ‘I love you’ regularly
- Knowing when to say sorry
- Being able to laugh at each other
- Having a similar outlook on life
- Regular hugs and cuddles
- Always kissing each other goodnight
- The occasional romantic gesture
- Considering your partner to be your best friend
- Sharing the parenting duties
- Always kissing each other goodbye in the mornings
- Having some shared hobbies and interests
- Always talking about a problem rather than bottling it up
- Asking your partner about their day
- Regular sex
- Having some different hobbies and interests
- Knowing when to give each other some space
- Never going to sleep on an argument
- Regular holidays and mini breaks
- Having similar aims and ambitions
- Having the odd argument or disagreement
- Continuing to make an effort to look nice for your partner
- Getting on with each other’s family
- Setting aside quality time for each other
- Holding hands when you are out and about
- Regularly complimenting each other
- Having your own friends as well as mutual friends
- Two TVs in the house
- Getting on with each other’s friends
- Each having a car
- Still shaving and grooming- making an effort to look good
- Each having equal share of the lie-ins when you have children
- Separate bank accounts
- Having regular nights out with friends, without your partner
- Surprise gifts and presents
- Not being friends with any ex-partners on Facebook and other social media sites
- A rota to divide up the household chores
- Regular date nights
- Two bathrooms or toilets
- Not having one person hogging the remote control
- Similar working hours
- Knowing each other’s passcode for their phone
- A secret stash of cash they know nothing about
- Keeping some things private (not going to the toilet in front of each other etc)
- A night or two a week where neither of you use your computers or phones
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