How to choose a funeral poem

 How to choose a funeral poem

Funerals are very sad occasions, and it can be very difficult to contain emotions if you were very close to the person who has passed away. Speaking without getting tearful is tough, and if there is pressure to speak in front of a large amount of people who are also upset, it can be even harder.

It is likely you feel like you should say a few words at the funeral and some people write their own eulogy for the person which they read out. And although these readings can be very touching, they can be very difficult to read aloud. That is why a lot of people choose to read a poem rather than speak about their own personal memories.

Using someone else's words rather than your own personal recollection of the person can give you the strength to speak without getting upset. If you are worried about what you will say at a loved one’s funeral, take a look at these meaningful poems that you could choose to read at a funeral.

She Is Gone (He Is Gone) by David Harkins

This poem is quite positive and can be changed to he, she or they depending on the person. You could also use the person's name too or change versus to make it more personal to them. 

You can shed tears that she is gone
Or you can smile because she has lived

You can close your eyes and pray that she will come back
Or you can open your eyes and see all that she has left

Your heart can be empty because you can’t see her
Or you can be full of the love that you shared

You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday
Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday

You can remember her and only that she is gone
Or you can cherish her memory and let it live on

You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back
Or you can do what she would want: smile, open your eyes, love and go on.


When God saw you getting tired by Anon

This poem is suitable for someone who battled with an illness or got ill towards the end of their lives. 

When God saw you getting tired
And a cure was not to be
He put his arms around you
And whispered come to me
He didn’t like what you went through
And he gave you rest
His garden must be beautiful
He only takes the best
And when we saw you sleeping
So peaceful and free from pain
We wouldn’t wish you back
To suffer that again
Today we say goodbye
And as you take your final rest
That garden must be beautiful
Because you are one of the best.


If roses grow in heaven

This poem is nice to dedicate to your mother if she has sadly passed away


If roses grow in heaven,
Lord please pick a bunch for me,
Place them in my Mother’s arms
and tell her they’re from me.Tell her I love her and miss her,
and when she turns to smile,
place a kiss upon her cheek
and hold her for awhile.Because remembering her is easy,
I do it every day,
but there’s an ache within my heart
that will never go away.

His journey’s just begun by Ellen Brenneman

 Again, this can be changed to ‘their journey’ or his or her.

His journey’s just begun
Don’t think of him as gone away
his journey’s just begun,
life holds so many facets
this earth is only one.
Just think of him as resting
from the sorrows and the tears
in a place of warmth and comfort
where there are no days and years.
Think how he must be wishing
that we could know today
how nothing but our sadness
can really pass away.
And think of him as living
in the hearts of those he touched…
for nothing loved is ever lost
and he was loved so much.


You might prefer to read a remembrance poem dedicated to a loved one, such as the ones below. 

When I come to the end of the road

When I come to the end of the road

And the sun has set for me

I want no rites in a gloom filled room

Why cry for a soul set free?

Miss me a little, but not for long

And not with your head bowed low

Remember the love that once we shared

Miss me, but let me go.

For this is a journey we all must take

And each must go alone.

It's all part of the master plan

A step on the road to home.

When you are lonely and sick at heart

Go to the friends we know.

Laugh at all the things we used to do

Miss me, but let me go.



When I'm Gone 

When I come to the end of my journey

And I travel my last weary mile

Just forget if you can, that I ever frowned

And remember only the smile

Forget unkind words I have spoken

Remember some good I have done

Forget that I ever had heartache

And remember I've had loads of fun

Forget that I've stumbled and blundered

And sometimes fell by the way

Remember I have fought some hard battles

And won, ere the close of the day

Then forget to grieve for my going

I would not have you sad for a day

But in summer just gather some flowers

And remember the place where I lay

And come in the shade of evening

When the sun paints the sky in the west

Stand for a few moments beside me

And remember only my best