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By Anonymous
22 January 2008 09:30
My husband of 40 years died three years ago. We were very happy and it was a terrible loss, but six months ago I met a widower and we have fallen in love and now wish to get married. My problem is my daughter. She is very anti my new friend - who is always very pleasant to her - and has said she doesn't want to come to the wedding. But she won't talk about why she feels so unhappy, so I have no idea how to try and reach her.
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Pick a quiet moment and explain to your daughter that you had 40 wonderful years with her father and although you love this man, it doesn't mean that you will forget those times. If she can't, or won't give you an actual reason why she disapproves, then you need to tell her that you are not giving in to emotional blackmail. After all, only you can decide if this man will make you happy, and your daughter should respect your decision. Pat Gibson
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sordy says
Although your daughter doesn't appreciate it at the moment, your wanting to marry again is a great compliment to your late husband proving that you had many happy years with him. I am divorced and I remember a friend saying to me (she was a widow) 'You had a very unhappy marriage so you look for the bad in a man, I was extrememly happy so I only look for the good' How true her words were at the time. Just show your daughter that there is no threat to her and I am sure she will eventually come around. Anyway good luck in your future happiness, we only get one life so enjoy it while you can.
13 May 2008 12:42
13 May 2008 12:41
Ponteliz says
I am sorry but I don't think your daughter would like you to tell her who to marry and neither should she tell you. If you are in love stick to your guns, your daughter will eventually come round. Good luck to you both. After all, we are only here once. Liz x
09 May 2008 20:46
Elena says
You don't say how old your daughter is but sometimes this can make a difference. Three years is not a long time to get over her dads death. Maybe she's frightened of losing you too or maybe you turned to her when your husband died and now she feels like someone else is taking not only her fathers place but hers too. Only time will heal and you can only be true to your heart and hope it all works out.
21 February 2008 16:50
