Confidence boost - 8 simple tips

By Yours Health Expert

Health

15 October 2008 19:24

Confident people are healthier and happier say the experts – so here’s how to get in on the act.

Our self esteem can take a bashing for all sorts of reasons and there are plenty of things that can give it a knock over 50 – from the menopause and that middle aged tummy tyre, to the kids finally leaving home and your long awaited retirement that’s actually come as a bit of a shock. Not to mention bereavement or niggly health problems. You shouldn’t put up with low confidence levels because, say scientists, people with low self esteem are less likely to take care of themselves. They’re more likely to skip exercise, eat poorly and neglect their health – which speeds up the ageing process and could increase your risk of serious health problems. So if you’re feeling a bit down in the dumps take these simple steps to sky-high self worth.

1 Make a fresh start
People with low confidence often beat themselves up about decisions they’ve made or things that have gone wrong. But it’s time to wipe the slate clean. “When you wake up in the morning take a few moments to think about the day ahead,” says confidence coach Lynda Field – author of Weekend Confidence Coach (£8.99/Vermillion). “Focus on all the wonderful changes and opportunities it will give you. Before bed, take a few minutes to review your day and the choices you’ve made. If you feel you have let yourself down, give yourself a break and another chance to get things right. Allow yourself a fresh and optimistic start everyday.”

2 Get sweaty
Obviously exercise is great if you want to lose weight and it’s your tummy tyre that’s knocking your confidence. But aside from the calorie burn, a regular workout can do a lot to raise your self-esteem. Studies have shown that exercise releases chemicals called endorphins, which could give you a natural high and make you feel happier and more positive. Try to do at least three 30 minute workouts a week.

3 Do something new
Setting yourself a brand new challenge is a great confidence boost if you’re feeling a bit low after your children have left home or you’ve been through a divorce. Not only does a new hobby give you something to focus on and a whole new purpose, learning new skills can give you a real sense of achievement, which in turn will raise your self-esteem. Try learning a new language, taking an art class or a cookery course.

4 Look after yourself
When was the last time you shaved your legs, moisturised your whole body, painted your toenails or had a facial? People with low self-esteem often don’t believe they’re worth the effort of a bit of DIY pampering, but you’d be amazed at the confidence boost you could get from a bit of nail varnish. Treating your body once a week sends positive messages to your brain – it says, “Yes – I deserve this!”

5 Don’t wait for compliments
If you’ve done something well, achieved a goal or lost some weight, don’t wait for other people to congratulate or compliment you – congratulate yourself. “Don’t wait for applause and admiration from others,” says Lynda. “If you need other people to give your self esteem a boost ask yourself why? Why should their opinion be worth more than yours?” Trust your own judgement and give yourself a pat on the back for a job well done.

6 Instant boost
For a confidence pick-me-up that will fit in your handbag – you can’t beat a Bach Flower Remedy. Try Larch if you’re feeling like you shouldn’t even try doing anything because you’ll probably fail; Crab Apple if you’re feeling down about your appearance or Cerato if you doubt your own judgement and are always asking others for their opinions (all £5.99/7ml). Put a few drops into water and sip your way to confidence. Available from Boots and health stores.

7 Get a dog
If your confidence has hit rock bottom and you’re finding it hard to go out try getting a dog. Not only will it offer you unconditional love, but having to care for another creature is great for your self-esteem. Research has also discovered that stroking a pet could help to reduce stress, anxiety and even your blood pressure. Plus that dog will need walking and will force you to be brave and leave the house.

8 Eat yourself confident
You might not think that what you eat could affect your self-esteem – but if you fill up on the wrong foods you could end up feeling very low. For a more upbeat you steer clear of ready meals and fatty convenience foods and stack your plate with fresh fruits and vegetables (the more colours the better); whole grains such as brown rice and granary bread; lean protein from turkey, chicken, fish, beans and pulses; and plenty of omega three fats from avocadoes, nuts and seeds. By providing your body with the right nutrients you could increase your energy levels, improve your sleep patterns, maintain a healthy weight and boost your mood.

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