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DianneP

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DianneP says:

Bored and lonely

Hello, I’m new to all this so let me introduce myself:

My name is Dianne. I’m 65 years old, not particularly old but to a 17 year old I’m as old as Methuselah’s granny! My husband is 66. We live in the East Midlands. We moved here 18 months ago from Dorset.

My husband suffered a devastating stroke three years ago which left him hospitalised for four months, paralysed down his left side, partially incontinent and with a failing heart. I’m not in the best of health myself. I was reasonably fit, apart from arthritis in my knees and hip before the stroke but since then because of the stress and strains have developed fibromyalgia.

The point is I’m so bored and lonely cooped up in the house all the time. I would love to have an email pen friend who is in similar circumstances and would understand and empathise. Who knows perhaps we could support each other.

Is anyone out there?
 

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MAI

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MAI says:

Re: Bored and lonely

Hi Dianne,  sorry to hear about your husbands  stroke it must have been devasting for you,  if you go into "Come on In" and introduce yourself to everyone you'll soon make some new friends on here we are all very friendly.

Grow old along with me, the best is yet to be............ Health is Wealth.............. A woman is like a tea bag, you don't know how strong until they are in hot water!

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Sally

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Sally says:

Re: Bored and lonely

Hi Dianne, as Mai has already said, if you look in on Come On In there are lots of lovely friendly people chatting away in there and ready to welcome everyone, we spend many hours supporting each other and chatting, you are very welcome, everyone is very friendly..........

"GJ

Margaret South Wales

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DianneP

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DianneP says:

Re: Bored and lonely

Thank you Mai, I'll do that :-)

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DianneP

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DianneP says:

Re: Bored and lonely

Thank you Sally. I look forward to logging onto 'Come on in' :-)

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carolprior

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carolprior says:

Re: Bored and lonely

Hi Dianne, I am new to this site, today in fact and registered because i too am bored and lonely, housebound much of the time as i care for my Son Andy who has severe global developmental delays and at 26 he attends a day centre only 2 days a week. He likes to be in his room and his personal space is sacred, he spends almost all of his time there. I have eaten my way up by over 2 stone since i gave up work to care for andy 24/7, and there are just the 2 of us.I desperately want to lose weight before my 60th birthday in August. the new mini trampoline sits in front of the tv all evening challenging, and i remain in my seat defiant to the end. I used to be a busy NHS employee knowing many people and never thought i would end up so lonely and isolated. ~So please anyone and everyone, dropme aline. Carol from the scottish borders

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Sheevee

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Sheevee says:

Re: Bored and lonely

If you go to Come On In - read the welcome to new members first - then click on start a new topic and introduce yourself - you'll soon have a group of friends ready to chat and make you welcome. 

It can be isolating being at home when everyone else seems to be busy with their own lives. 

Sheevee Buddy: Cabriole (Carole) Fond memories of "Josephine" a real cool buddy

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MAI

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MAI says:

Re: Bored and lonely

Hi Carol,  it's so hard being a carer, I looked after my Mum who had dementia and it isolates you so much,  is there some kind of work you could do from home?   it would be something to take your mind off things, and as your son spends most of his time in his room he would'nt disrupt your work.    Also do go into Come on In as  Sheevee has said and introduce yourself,  you'll soon make lots of new friends,  we're all very friendly.  

Grow old along with me, the best is yet to be............ Health is Wealth.............. A woman is like a tea bag, you don't know how strong until they are in hot water!

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millyfrisk

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millyfrisk says:

email friend

 hi i m pat, i am a carer to my husband who has heart problems (had a bypass in 2003) wheelchair bound and because of the back problems incontinent. i feel everyday is one big grind from getting up till going to bed. then things like bathroom getting convertided to a shower and cosimat toilet add to the problems. plus we live a sheltered comples i e retirement home for over 55s my husband got assaulted by another tenant last thursday, since then ive had to stop in for police and doctors 24 7. not kidding police came at 11.30pm one night. doctor came 930pm another night. if you want an email pal, i will give it ago if you want to. pat 

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monkeyraksha

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monkeyraksha says:

Re: Bored and lonely

Hi Diane

I am sorry about your husband i am a disabled lady who cant get out much so i can be here for you as a friend if you need me Hugs huges

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